Today I saw a guy that I hadn't seen in several years. He used to work at the same place as me, and we dated the same chick... at the same time. Only thing was, neither of us knew it until it was too late. She was the kind of girl that would act like whatever she thought you would want, and would change for whoever she happened to be around. For convenience, I'll just call her "SkankyWhore." SkankyWhore would spend one evening with me, and the next with him, and we were too dense to figure it out. She swore to me that she wasn't doing anything with him, and I'm sure she swore to him that she wasn't doing anything with me.
Eventually, she chose him (as it turns out, I was the lucky one), and the two of them quit the company so they wouldn't have to deal with all the crap. Actually, she left for that reason, he left I think because he had an opportunity to make more money. It just happened to work out that they quit on the same day. So fast forward... Ironically, she ended up cheating on him, too. So once a cheater, always a cheater. It's funny, because talking to him today, we don't have any problem at all with each other, but we both really hate her. I call that justice.
I guess what I'm leading up to is this: If someone is willing to cheat WITH you, they will also be willing to cheat ON you. People that cheat don't have rules about it, they just do whatever they want, and don't worry about who gets hurt. So if you want to be with someone you can trust, you probably shouldn't start out by having an affair with them. Just a friendly piece of advice from someone that knows. And don't just think I'm taking a shot in the dark at this... I personally know people that have cheated, and people that desperately WANT to cheat. Just say no.
If you want the other person soo much, at least have the honesty to tell the person you're currently with, and leave them. (Divorce, dump, whatever) That way, at least the person you're currently with can move on with their life, instead of catching some horrible STD from you.
Thanks once again for your time.
Pete